What's your fetish?

You know I love it when some people (myself included) hear the term "fetish" their minds automatically goes to some place disgusting or unusual. Like its very unsightly to have a sexual fetish, or its out of the norm. Very true, there ARE some pretty outrageous fetishes I would never care to touch or just never would have thought sexually appealing. But if you are like me and like to think outside the box and try new things in bed, chances are, you do have some sort of fetish (or paraphilia) and maybe you are not even aware of it!

Now I'm not saying that you are a closet case freak that secretly worships the human foot, but perhaps there is a part of the human body that you favor more than others and it may not even be particularly sexual, but certainly a fixation. For example, I am very fond of the neck. It is a warm, comfortable, often smooth and sensitive part of the body. Many people don't always think about the neck off the bat when talking about sex, yet I find it plays a big role in foreplay. And those who do like the neck all know that there are many different levels of "neck-play": Kissing, licking, sucking, breathing and when done right even biting. But don't immediately go Vampire on me, I don't believe in blood or hickeys.

But that is one of my fixations. I do have many others that are actually for the most part quite normal for girls to have with guys, like arms and hands. But those of course are still just body parts. The technical term for "Fetish" means a fixation on something that isn't living or part of something living.

Ok, so what about objects? Well for me, I still have yet to discover an object that alone turns me on. It probably would have to depend if a partner was using it or something. Always joked about having a panty fetish but I don't exactly believe that to be the case. Some people do however have fetishes for shoes, stockings, bras and all sorts of clothing. Believe it or not but some people are actually turned on by stuffed animals or cartoons!

As for me, like most women, I'm not so visual to get turned on by looking at something. I am more turned on by activity. At first this may seem like an obvious thing that everybody is into...I mean sex and foreplay itself is activity. True but I like to add some other things to spice it up. I personally like a man who is comfortable with dirty talk in bed. I also love to be dominated. Its probably the only time where I like being dominated by a man. Of course when I say "dominate" I mean that in fairly simple ways. I have never actually attempted bondage with belts, whips and handcuffs. But to feel the weight of a man on top of you, gripping you tightly, with a firm hand slap on the behind, its simply amazing.

I know, I know its not everyone's cup of tea. To some of you, this may actually sound laughable like how we feel about many other fetishes. To be honest I surprised myself when I discovered what is I love in sex. Ironically, what I love in sex, I hate in life. But I've actually seen that to be the case in many people. There are some hard working business men who find they liked to be babied by women, and some extreme feminists like to dominated by men. Most of this will go unknown because nobody wants anyone to know about their secret bed lives. And who can really blame them, right?

But I am convinced that unless somebody is a true "Vanilla" in the bedroom, everyone has some sort of sexual fetish or paraphilia.

Ever given it any thought?