If that's the case my older sister is definitely NOT going to be one of them!
Let me step back a bit.
No, Brandon and I are not engaged...not yet. But we do talk about marriage from time to time, which I feel we have every right to do. We've already said that we'd love to spend the rest of our lives together and I don't see that changing any time soon. But we are also very realistic about it. We know we need to be financially stable in a decent home of our own before we'd even get engaged. A goal we are slowly working on.
Now I don't know if my mother thinks the two of us are serious. But it bothers me because I have never been in a relationship for a whole year before. Brandon and I have been together for almost 14 months. And of course as you, my dear readers, know I have been in love with him for years prior. So I don't know how Mom would think we weren't serious.
But anyway, I am also bothered that I can't even have a hypothetical conversation with my mom about marriage. I was in the shower and thinking about plans for the wedding I would love to have and making a scrapbook with pictures of what I might want for it. So naturally I was thinking about my bridesmaids and what they'd wear and I thought about how Chrissy is begging me not to make everyone wear matching dresses (apparently none matching is the trend). I get out of the shower and start drying off and I step out of the bathroom and say to my Mom "You know what I think one of the hardest things about planning a wedding would be? Bridesmaids dresses!" and the response I get from Mom "When are YOU getting married?"
Um...ok, not the response I was expecting. Then I proceed to explain about Chrissy and Mom just dismissed it as a trendy thing and said "You will probably will only have two dresses to choose." Ok how does she figure that? I have three good girlfriends Chrissy included. Does Mom seriously think that I have no friends or something? It wouldn't be the first time she made assumptions like that. She also has said that I would probably have a much smaller wedding than my sister's because I don't know as many people as she does. What a load of bullocks!
And of course I am sure she got offended when I said that when my sister was married I didn't care about wearing the same dress as the other girls and even if I did, she would tan my hide. I wasn't even being really serious but she gave me that look. Hey, I wouldn't have said it if Sis hadn't tanned my hide before. I think Mom is in denial about that, or at least thinks that I dwell on it too much. I'm sorry, but Sis had a bad temper (sometimes still does) as a pre-teen/teenager and did raise a hand to me in anger a few times, but whatever.
Anyway, I am not talking to Mom anymore about the subject, at least not till after she sees a ring on my finger. Unless she is going to take me seriously, there really is no point. It'll only leads to arguments and heartache.
~IrishEyes~
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